Fair Sex Hardly Fair
A perfect Elysium is a thought for every one and why not, God has gifted us with all the capacity. Regardless of the fact that comes first and wins the heart of sapiens, one is defined to expunge thoughts of evil from his life. Means that every thing should be done pretty fair!
Through out the globe men and women social animals are in a continuous search of tranquility. Either emotional or professional, the ultimate satisfaction is required to spend the rest of their lives happily. But satisfaction for female is in focus here as this fair sex is hardly fair in satisfying others. Being a female my self I feel no hesitation in writing about some shortcomings of females, which, if at the proper time, are erased will lead to a better future.
This era has revolutionized world and females being in the corporate world leading the topmost industries. Whether it is an FMCG or it’s a service industry, females are found everywhere contributing the best they can. Most of them have struggled so hard, leaving their family behind, that they have made themselves a living legend. Women have the edge in today’s work- place environment: coaching, teamwork, empowering employees…sharing information, sharing responsibility, consulting rather than dictating…motivating others, fostering communication, listening to others…producing high quality work.
Females have a motherly nature by birth, they take care of their work and subordinates like their babies. Every time supporting and rescuing from the hazards of the huge losses. The successful female employers always look forward to present a quick remedy to a problem and are working for the benefit of their work place. Regardless of being a gentle sex, they stand through thick and thin of their companies and are good in arranging all sorts of presentations and events.
Working side by side with males, in male oriented environment, they prove themselves the pioneer of peace and respect.
According to a survey recently in Karachi, employees (male and female) were questioned about male bosses v/s females, and 75% of employees preferred to remain under the guidance of male bosses. There were many reasons, which are narrated later in this article. Male bosses have an edge over female ones. What matters are characteristics that an employer, male or female, excels in.
Female managers when get the higher position after a course of hard work, think that if being weak gender they can get on to the heights of success why not others so they start treating them as strong individual who can bear their harshness. Workload given by them differs from males as they want flawlessness in every bit and are a more miser than a male. Females would rather have an authoritarian check on the finances being over depleted than a male. They are demanding and crave for things to be prim and proper according to their taste. Spotless!
Misunderstandings are more often seen under the female managers managing a team of females as the psyche well aware of difference of opinions. “If women chooses to be nurturing, on one hand they will be fairly accepted and liked as a person”, says Larry Nadler, a specialist in interpersonal communications.
Women and men preferred male supervisors and discipline from a man, even though male bosses were more severe than women. Males can be more creative and can work for late hours; not worried to reach home before dark than females. Female entrepreneurs in Pakistan are less but are working really hard. They work 17 hours a day and expect others to do so as well regardless of the gender. 80% of the young entrepreneurs sleep less than seven hours daily ignoring recreation and physical exercise. Mood swings occur and most of the times these swings get stability while briefing subordinates about a particular task.
So back to the survey, 75% employees affirm the fact that they would prefer working under a male boss. Men denied to work with female managers as there was a gender complex. They didn’t want a weaker sex ruling their bread and butter. Others couldn’t resist the short-tempered behavior and avoid answering back. Some of them also gave a very genuine reason to which I also agree, they feel power less at home and when this power is bestowed to them, they take advantage of it and becomes the HE man of the organization. They never vacillate to affront their subordinates and use insensitive words to abuse them. Harassment with females has been a common issue. When the complaints are raised against them they deny the fact of being impolite and blame their sub ordinates that they are too sensitive to digest their words. I guess professionals are blessed with a heart.
What you say?
Female managers may benefit from special training in how to deliver discipline, and recipients may need to be made more aware of their stereotypes and gender expectations. In the wake of our economic growth it’s an honor for our nation that we are having females leading even in the IT industry but I have a personal experience that males are preferred. When an engineer female passes out from any reputable institution and is the top scorer, she doesn’t attain much attention against a male who is a supplementary holder. Even now employers find reluctant in keeping females for their technical work as they are under the impression that females are still dependent and wont be able to make solutions within the iota of time. In a recently released book, Catfight by US author Leora Tanenbaum found that workingwomen are expected to be aggressive and masculine. Worried about being perceived as a mediocre or incompetent worker, many women go out of their way to prove they are not too emotional or passive and can be more aggressive and demanding than any man.
Women are usually less physical; they would use techniques such as excluding others, over supervising and controlling and verbal abuse.
Male managers always support you and if you have done a mistake, they might yell at you but at the same time will teach you load. You know they are always there to back up and stand like a wall against the top management and customer. My personal experience articulate, few of the female managers are no doubt there to rescue you but most of them take the burden off from their heads as once my manager vocalized, ” If the prints aren’t ready I wont come to rescue you.” Very few of the professional people are sensitive, as they have entered in the virtual and real world and are well aware of facts and figures. So this is a fake justification to over come the hurting effect.
Females are more verbal. They discuss problems of their employees with them but stick to the decisions, which are lingering in their minds. Sometimes adhering to the facts presented by their sub ordinates, lead them to success. Male managers most of the times discusses basic facts and are more interested in figures rather explanations. Employees today covet to work where they are valued and are listened. They don’t want to take orders. They want to get guidance and have opportunities to achieve on their own. Male managers can guide them well without being selfish and bless them with fewer hardships than women managers.
Men and women should not be strict managers as in dictators are hardly successful. Soft managers are preferred who know the tactics to get hardest work done with improvising well with each other. Women in leadership position tend to be more dominant in social styles following the bitterness at back of their mind. Some of them want to impress top management and in doing so they forget that they are leading a team, which has to get inputs from the sub ordinates. Managers should be hired who uses their softer skills and deal with the most difficult situation merrily.
Not all fingers are same but when discussion comes in comparison then we need to give gentle sex fewer marks. Female being very well organized uses sarcasm to enlighten their conversation. My personal experience speaks out loud! Many of the hardworking employees leave the premises soon as they get in hands of a bad boss, just ruining their career and giving space to an idle situation. One fact, which is worth mentioning, is the gossiping session. Females usually have never ending gossips, discussing every single mistake done by their colleagues.
Natasha, at the age of 25 joined another service industry after 3 years of her experience. Being an assistant manager, she was compelled to lead her team with the hard work and cultivated a regime of trust. With zeal and candor she was doing her task and was supervised by a female boss. After three months of joining, she was compelled to leave by her female boss as she used to harass her with her so-called ultimate powers. Not backing her up and not briefing her about the exact work she used to pester on every small stuff. Disrespect for the female manager was sprouting in her and after three months of a mental torture she decided to quit without thinking that it would ruin her resume. This is just one case; we come across thousands of cases like this every day.
I would rather imply if females become more competent, balanced and more considerate then they could lead the whole world. Just few slip-ups made by them intentionally or unintentionally if erased from their lives then no question of male.
